What’s better than a life coach who is also an interior designer? 
Let’s face it, a really well thought out space begins with your thoughts and your habits, continues with your relationships, and concludes within your environment.
​Okay, let’s start with your thoughts. A great designer will help you uncover the core thoughts that work for you and against you. We then explore the opinions, beliefs, and interpretations that you hang on to that bog you down and bum you out? We’ll take a clear, simple, and swift approach to remove the thoughts that get you down and boost the thoughts that motivate you. It’s easy. You’ll feel better about yourself. Removing these negative thoughts help create a space where creative energy can flow.

We take a similar approach with habits and relationships, then visit your environment.  By this point once we’ve addressed everything else, you now that you love who you are, what you do, and who you’re with…so I then ask you, “Do you love coming home? Or do you dread walking through your front door?”

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Whatever your situation, aren’t you lucky that your life coach is also an interior designer? 

Happy thoughts? Check. Good habits? Check. Great relationships? Check. Love coming home? Check.
Lifestyle By Design complete. 
Let’s get started. 

I always know when I’m not living true to what I preach everyday- authenticity!  It took me traveling over 2,000 miles this week to figure that out.
It always starts with that overwhelming anxiety.  You know, the kind that no matter how many techniques or tricks you’ve learned thus far, will work on controlling it?  The kind where you feel like you are being choked, constantly, and its completely exhausting- and everyday you are “faking it to make it”.  In all honesty, I feel like this a lot of the time.  It’s usually when I have worked myself to death, my stress level is high, my business isn’t running as planned, my kids are misbehaving- I’m just drained.  I start to move away from that authentic place, and find myself more concerned with others opinions.  I get cranky, then angry.  I am frustrated, sad, and nothing seems enjoyable, and the malaise has begun to suffocate other areas of my life. I want things to change, but I have no idea where to start.  Ever feel this way? Your feelings of stagnation exist because, deep down, you’re not being honest with yourself.
For me, this is when I find is so important to find my “center”.  It usually consists of escaping and being able to find peace in nature.  Meditation can be helpful, exercise.  It’s important to be honest with yourself.  To know what truly makes YOU happy, where YOU find that calm, your balance.
So how do you really know if you aren’t living in a place of authenticity?


Things you say when you are living out of that authentic place:
“I can’t take care of what I have, so I’ll never have what I want.”
“Given my horrible track record, a good relationship just isn’t in the cards for me.”
“I developed this illness so God must really hate me.”
When life’s obstacles arise, you are not being punished. You’re being awakened.  Always remember this. Pay attention to those times when you are insincere in your speech, or when you are acting in a way that doesn’t align with your core values. Then explore the fears and beliefs that may create those barriers to your authenticity.

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
-Oscar Wilde

Something else I’ve noticed I’ve done a lot lately is not trust my gut.  So, trust your intuition. Often, we feel out of sync when we are acting inauthentic. Things just don’t feel right. Pay attention to those hunches, physical sensations, and impressions. They can be your instincts telling you that you are not being genuine. When you are on track and authentic, you’ll feel that too.
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Understand that authenticity is linked to our values and belief system; those by which we set our moral compass towards and away from things we feel intuitively guided by.

“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.”
-May Sarton
Being authentic means knowing how to be resillient so you are better equipped when the shit hits the fan- and believe me, the shit WILL hit the fan.  Authenticity isn’t just about finding happiness – we have to be realistic that happiness 100% of the time is not sustainable. Authenticity is more about doing something because it makes you feel good. Doing the things YOU want to do, instead of what others think you should do.
The wonderful thing about when you feel like you aren’t living an authentic life- you can always start NOW!


So here are my questions to you, if you think you want to live a more authentic life.
What would you be happy to give up?
Where do you love spending time?
What’s non negotiable?
What do you want?
What do you not want?

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
The issue with us not going for what we want a lot of the time is the fear that is often attached to making changes, and what’s at stake if things don’t work out. Sometimes it’s not letting go of the past, holding on to resentments, instead of owning our story.  But what, just what, would you do if the idea of failure were not part of your decision-making process?

So, what next? What have you found out about yourself? What has surprised you? Where do you want to take this? It’s all out there for you gorgeous one. It’s for you to go out and get it! Remember I am always here to help you get started on that path.

Do you want to live more of an authentic life, But you’re not really sure how to do it? Let’s talk. Why not book a FREE 30 minute no obligation discovery session with me today? ​

What is mindfulness and how can you apply it when it comes to your space, the place where you are the most…home?  When working with my Client’s who use my Lifestyle By Design services, mindfulness is an important part of our authenticity journey.  Here are 3 Questions I ask my Client’s during our Discovery Sessions, that you can use in your own home.

1. Find an object in your home that you find beautiful.  Look at it.  Examine it.  Ask yourself what is so beautiful about it?  Write it down and reflect on it.
2. Think about the room you spend the most time in, and write down why you spend a lot of time in that room, and what you like about that room.  What do you dislike about that room?
3. What story is your space telling about you? Is it accurate? Does it reflect the real you? Does it feel amazing, a little off — or completely overwhelming? Is it welcoming you into the next chapter of your life — or keeping you stuck in an old one?

I tell all my design Client’s who use my Lifestyle By Design services, to use a journal during the discovery portion of our journey. Pay attention to your thoughts and follow them wherever they go. Allow things to unfold. Let your sentences be what they are. Don’t worry about grammar or sentences or paragraphs. Simply let the words be. No judgment. Just expression. Just presence.
Ready to uncover what’s happening between you and your space?
Let’s get started!
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Our Masterclass To Authentic Living group launched last month- and now you can join us too!  Our topic for October has been ‘Happiness Within Yourself’.
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If you know me personally, you probably know that every Sunday morning my definition of church is grabbing my cup of chai and watching Super Soul Sunday.  Every Sunday…really!  How interesting today’s show was a repeat but with such synchronicity, it was Shawn Achor, and he discussed ways to be happy in life. Sometimes, author Shawn Achor says, you just need to make happiness happen. Watch to find out 2 ways to give yourself a lift today!


Watch Super Soul Sunday with Shawn Achor
Join Toscano Interiors Masterclass To Authentic Living, group! Enrollment is only $20 a month! ECourses, business building tips, a forum where you can create-learn-share about living authentically. 

We can’t wait for you to join our tribe!
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