Raise your hand if this sounds familiar…You start doing the load of laundry that has been sitting in the clothes basket for days but then realize the dishes in the sink are piling up. As you pile your laundry on the bed, your good friend calls – she needs a number that’s on a piece of paper that’s in your day planner...in your car. As you’re digging around the backseat you find that earring you lost. Which goes with that dress you took to the cleaners over a month ago and forgot to pick up.
45 minutes later you have half-accomplished five things and haven’t fully accomplished anything. Unless you count feeling super annoyed and depleted as accomplishing something. (Which, I’m guessing, you don’t.)
This has happened to all of us. It’s part of the curse of being constantly connected and trying to balance a full personal, professional, and home life.
Now, I could offer a series of tips about putting your phone in a drawer and turning off social media notifications but I also think it’s important to take responsibility for our actions and talk about the importance of personal focus and completion...in all areas of our life...not just housework.
I recently started thinking that there has to be a way to deal with the tiny distractions, little obligations of everyday life, and even some of the bigger areas of life too... like RELATIONSHIPS and patterns that show up in our lives. Something that motivates me to complete projects – at home or otherwise – even after I’ve been interrupted, and avoidance when it relates to the bigger areas in my life. Something that empowers me to find a still point between polarities, a point of balance where all emotional loads can be released.
What does this mean? Basically, it’s another way of phrasing your mom’s favorite saying:
“finish what you started.” But frankly… I find “Closing Circles” to be a much more elegant, gentle and motivating way to say and think about the process completion. But can also mean overcoming physical, emotional, intellectual or spiritual imbalances.
You can practice Closing Circles in nearly any area of your life. On the surface, it might look like putting the laundry away as soon as the dryer alarm goes off, making your bed every morning before leaving your house, throwing away those wilting flowers (you know you’re guilty of this too!), or dropping those things that have been sitting in the trunk of your car for months off at Goodwill.
On a deeper, more heart-centered level it could look like making a decision about something you have been avoiding like addressing your addiction, having a difficult conversation with a friend, or getting to the root of why you keep jumping from one toxic relationship to another, or saying no to an invitation to do something you no longer enjoy.
There are million and a half circles we can open and close in a day, a week, a month, a year, a lifetime – relationships, careers, chores we put off, projects we don’t finish. And most often our common task is to close circles related to lessons to learn in this life.
The power of closing circles is big. Truly.
Each time we open a circle and neglect to close it, our mind is holding it somewhere. The psychological weight of all those half-finished projects and nagging should-dos add up. Who among us hasn’t felt irritable or depressed after a week of multitasking or a day when we failed to cross anything off our to-do list? When you constantly leave things unfinished, your poor brain never gets a break. It’s continually holding room for “that thing I still need to do.” But much bigger than that, Closing Circles is balancing any and all patterns related to situations that ever caused you imbalance, be they ignited by you or reflected to you from the outside.
If you have children, you know what I mean when I say 'reflected to you from the outside'. Children, especially your own, are extremely important messengers to us. During their first evolution cycles they quite clearly show us what our development areas are. They deliver us the message, no matter how painful it may feel, because they Love you so much. During their younger years, they are incapable of lying which is an acquired ability and comes with adjustment to polarity. In their first years children see things as they are and express true emotions. You can learn so much from children by just listening to him or her. When they make you emote, study the reasons. Children bring you closer to reality in many ways.
If you have children and you do not succeed in closing some circles during your lifetime, you sometimes pass it on to your children to close them for you. Your children follow the life patterns that you have taught and shown them, unless they are able to close the circle and choose differently. An example of this is, an abusive parent, the child will either become abusive or find a spouse who is abusive, to close the circle of either parent. If the child has already earlier found balance without guilt or blame, there is no need for the child to engage in a relationship involving problems with abuse. When the Truth is found and the circle is closed, uncertainty and fear are replaced with Faith and Trust.
A great example of this is from the Bible. The story about Abraham. Abraham was ready to sacrifice his son to prove his faith. In his heart he knew that he had already learned his lesson. He only needed to trust his own faith, and so he did when it was time to test it according to his Soul Plan. His son was never in danger because of his Father’s faith. Abraham had closed his circle of faith, therefore in his heart he knew both he and his son were safe.
You can free up acres of emotional and mental energy when you close circles. Sometimes if we aren't careful illness can be a strong sign of a circle awaiting for a closure. Apart from being preparation for death after the completion of defined lessons to learn. You can overcome any illness, if you are able to balance yourself and recovery is meant to be to allow you to proceed according to your Soul Plan. Not too mention, when you close a circle in your life, be it big or small, it will benefit every individual through the group consciousness.
Everything goes in circles and moves in phases, you included. Imagine that you are a toothed wheel rotating and connecting to another toothed wheel for a lesson to learn. Grasp the moment when it awakens a deep feeling within you. Look deep into yourself. See what the lesson is that you have brought into your life. You have brought that lesson into your life and it is only you who can close the circle and release yourself by changing yourself. Reflect on what it is that you need to learn from the experience, learn and let go.
Implementing this new way of thinking about not only my to-do list but in all areas of my life has been truly transformative and I am so excited to invite you to try it as well.
This week I challenge you to pay more attention to how many circles you have open right now. You close your circles only by evolving, by learning your lessons.
In the comments below I would love to know:
– Does “closing circles” change the way you relate to completing tasks and/or projects, addressing the difficult relationships in your life?
P.S. If “closing circles” is particularly hard for you, you are not alone and I can help. A little love and some focused support from me might be just the thing to help increase your productivity and get your brain organized. Contact me and we will get you scheduled for a Discovery Session today
Author, Candance Toscano
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