 🌟 Embracing 45 revolutions around the sun today, a journey I never envisioned traversing. In the dance of life, I've encountered shadows of betrayal and hurdles of setbacks, yet I emerge resilient, guided by the mystical trio of optimism, idealism, and stoicism. Each stumble, a cosmic lesson; each rise, a testament to my spirit's resilience. But woven amidst the cosmic tapestry, I've also been touched by the ethereal tendrils of magic, the tender embrace of love, and the radiant glow of kindness, filling my essence with pure joy.
I find myself reflecting on the myriad experiences, lessons, and revelations that have shaped the essence of who I am. In honor of this milestone, I'd like to share 45 of my truths about myself, each one a thread woven into the tapestry of my existence, encompassing the essence of my being. May some of these lessons resonate with some of you on your own journey. 1. Trusting my intuition and listening to my inner voice has led me down paths I never imagined, revealing hidden truths and guiding me towards my purpose. 2. Ancestral wisdom flows through my veins, reminding me of the resilience and strength of those who came before me. 3. Despite encountering darkness in others, I've learned that their shadows only serve to illuminate my own light. 4. Forgiveness is a daily practice, but I've realized that some souls may not be deserving of it – and that's okay. 5. I've embraced the stoic principle of detachment. Though I may be loyal and tolerate situations longer than necessary, once I've reached my limit, I sever ties with toxic individuals without guilt. When I'm done, I'm truly done. 6. Standing firm in my convictions has earned me both respect and solitude, and I wouldn't have it any other way. 7. Authenticity is my superpower; I'd rather be respected, or in most cases talked about, for being genuine than praised for fitting in and artificial, the world has enough fake shit. 8. Watching my children grow reminds me of life's fleeting nature, urging me to savor every precious moment. 9. Life's twists and turns have diverged from my expectations, but each deviation has led to unexpected blessings. Embracing change has taught me resilience and flexibility, allowing me to adapt to life's ever-shifting currents. 10. Helping those with nothing to offer in return – whether it's nurturing plants or caring for animals – fills my heart with purpose. 11. Boundaries are essential for maintaining my mental and emotional well-being; I've learned to set them without guilt. Set your boundaries or other people will set them for you. This includes family. 12. In the realm of existence, I discern the latent greatness residing within each soul, yet some choose to dwell in shadows, forsaking their inherent brilliance. Though their actions may wound, I remain steadfast in the knowledge that my perception of their potential does not absolve them of their responsibility. In their choices lies the truth of their character, and in my response lies the essence of my own. 13. Kindness is a currency that never depreciates; I strive to spend it generously wherever I go. However allowing people to drain me spiritually, emotionally, or mentally is the most destructive thing I’ve ever done to myself. Connections should energize you and be reciprocated. That’s how you know they’re aligned. 14. Respect the sanctity of another woman's home; integrity and empathy pave the way for honorable choices. Emotional intelligence isn't just about understanding others; it's the compass guiding us towards paths of integrity and grace, ensuring our journey is rich with compassion and respect. I will always be a woman other women can trust…ALWAYS. 15. Standing up for what's right, even in the face of opposition, is an act of integrity and courage that I will always uphold. 16. Self-care is not selfish; it's a necessary act of self-preservation and self-love. 17. Expressing gratitude daily has opened my eyes to the abundance of blessings in my life. 18. Trusting in divine timing has brought me peace and contentment, knowing that everything happens in its own time. 19. Vulnerability is the key to authentic connections; I've learned to embrace it wholeheartedly. 20. Perfection is an illusion; I've found beauty in embracing imperfections and celebrating uniqueness. 21. I am an alchemist. Stagnancy and I are incompatible. If necessary, I will upheave my entire world. 22. Authentic connections are not just fleeting encounters but soulful bonds that nourish and sustain me on my journey. 23. Celebrating small victories has taught me the power of gratitude and resilience. 24. Betrayal has shown me the importance of discerning true allies from fair-weather friends, teaching me to value quality over quantity. 25. Regeneration is real. People stabbed me in the back but my spirit is still in tact. 26. Living with no fear has allowed me to step into my power and pursue my dreams without reservation. 27. Choosing faith over doubt has given me the courage to navigate life's uncertainties with grace and resilience. 28. Courageously expressing my truth is not defiance but liberation, a courageous act of self-expression and empowerment. 29. I’m grateful for people that left me. They showed me who I was. 30. There is nothing in my purpose that says I need to prove anything to anybody. 31. Being a woman of integrity and trustworthiness is a badge I wear proudly, knowing that my word is my bond. 32. Integrity is my compass; I follow it, even when the path is difficult. But please don't fuck around, because you will find out. 33. If you don’t like me, its because you see me. If you like me because you see yourself. 34. I love my people hard, and this is my greatest joy, a testament to the depth of my heart and the boundless capacity of my soul. Choosing love over fear or others opinions is not blind idealism but profound wisdom, a recognition of the transformative power of love in healing and transformation. 35. Trusting in the interconnectedness of all things has deepened my sense of belonging and purpose. 36. Letting go of the need for external validation has freed me to live unapologetically. 37. Dancing gives you direct connection to Source. So do it often and with wild abandon. 38. Embracing the journey of self-discovery has allowed me to uncover my true essence and potential. Sitting with my shadow has been an integral part of this journey—a courageous act of facing the aspects of myself that society often deems unworthy or undesirable. Yet, in my shadow's embrace, I have found profound wisdom and insight. I love my shadow self because it embodies the raw, unfiltered truth of who I am. It is the repository of my fears, insecurities, and vulnerabilities, but also the source of my greatest strength and resilience. In embracing my shadow, I have learned to love every aspect of myself, both light and dark, for they are integral parts of the intricate tapestry of my existence. Self-love is my birthright; I claim it, knowing it is the key to unlocking my fullest potential. 39. As a parent, it's important to instill the virtues of accountability and humility, urging your children to face their challenges with unwavering resolve. In this journey, I too embrace accountability, acknowledging my imperfections and committing to owning my shit. 40. Cultivating a sense of wonder and curiosity has enriched my life with endless possibilities and adventures. 41. Living boldly has allowed me to step into my power and embrace life's challenges with open arms. 42. Alignment requires discipline. 43. Surrendering to the flow of life's unfolding has brought me a sense of peace and trust, knowing that I am exactly where I need to be. 44. Any relationship I pour into should help me grow into a better version of myself. Uplift me of get left. 45. Do not covet what others possess. No individual possesses everything; if they did, they would not be incarnated in this realm. Where one person enjoys a blessing, there is inevitably something lacking elsewhere, often unseen. Instead, direct your attention to where the Universe bestows its blessings upon you. Concentrate on your strengths and talents, for they are the essence of your purpose and your mission in this life! As I journey deeper into the realms of existence, I surrender to the cosmic symphony, embracing the harmony of light and shadow, knowing that within the darkness lies the seed of enlightenment. Here's to embracing the cosmic dance and surrendering to the cosmic currents. Here's to 45 years of cosmic exploration and soulful illumination. 🌌✨ xoxo, Candance #CosmicJourney #BirthdayReflections #Resilience #Optimism #Idealism #Stoicism #Magic #Love #Kindness #PureJoy #45YearsStrong
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Age Of Aquarius: 21 New Rules For 2021
1/29/2021
 If you’re still clutching to the Old Normal you’re in for a world of hurt in the months and years ahead. Let Go of it NOW or you’re going to fall BEhind and likely end up stuck out there with the mob, fighting for something that was never yours to BEgin with. We absolutely must realize, right NOW, that the Game has already Changed and that the NEW RULES are BE-ing Written as We Speak. If we cannot open our focus up enough to catch the Cataclysmic Changes happening within our SELVES, we are going to miss the greatest opportunity of our life and risk getting thrown under the bus. We’re moving into the Age of Aquarius and this Emerging Paradigm demands total Inner Freedom, which stands in stark contrast to the Ancient Paradigm of external control. This Spiritual war has been brewing for a long time already, but my oh my, is it ever Heating Up. Prepare your SELF for a Colossal, even Biblical struggle between these two dynamics as the Universe works to restore It SELF to Balance under a NEW SIGN. We are NOT Here to steer this thing to our liking; We are Here to Open Up to all of the Possibilities this Ride has to offer. Time to BE the CHANGE. And this really is the Moment so many of us have been waiting for. The Matrix Control System was never going to come to an end without Revealing itself for What It Really Is. It’s finally all out in the open for everyone to see NOW, and it’s clear to those who choose to look that the Hammer is coming down and the Old System is going for Broke in its effort to consume the entire Human race. Those who learn to stay continually Aligned with their Inner Truth will BE able to avoid slipping into conformity, dependence, fear, group-thinking, and herd stupidity. We are going to need the Tools, Temperament, Tenacity, and Spirit to navigate this, or we are going to get fried by stress, overwhelmed by fear, and we’ll end up stuck with the other sheeple in one of the pop-media narratives, blindly carrying out someone else’s agenda. Our Energy will be entirely consumed by external events, stunting our Spiritual and Inner Growth, and we will be sentenced to toil in frustration in the remnants of a Dying Paradigm, able only to focus on conflict, strife, and struggle. One of the things I’m noticing very clearly these days is how the Nature of TRUTH and the Source of TRUTH is changing. Whereas once we could seek and find Truth in our established collective history, media, and in the accounts of others, Truth NOW is BE-ing revealed to us in relationships. All of that other stuff is proving to be completely compromised. And the isolation of the year has induced a purification in our relationships so that NOW it’s as though we are all operating in a House of Mirrors. At first, the crisis revealed our Truest Colours to those closest to us, and NOW, in the reflections of our relationships, we can see more clearly than ever what we need to KNOW and DO in order to Evolve and Grow into this NEW Inner FREEDOM. If we Ignore What We See We will get Stuck in the Old ways of BEing. Pay careful attention to how you are showing up in your relationships these days because there are two competing narratives playing out in our world right NOW. One of them happens on the media stage and features an expertly-crafted orchestration of Humanity’s worst qualities. The other story happens in your mind and in your heart and presents an extraordinary opportunity for Personal Evolution. Whichever one you’re focused is what you’ll bring to the others in your life and will determine what feedback you receive from them and the world. A wise friend recently told me that the LOVE we experience in our lives is the Clearest Reflection of who We Truly Are as people. So, what do you see in the relationships in your life? Are you experiencing LOVE, or are you frustrated? Is there Easiness or maybe emptiness? Is there JOY or do you feel repressed or bottled up? Do you feel a sense of Expansion or a sense of contraction? Can you feel into your relationships to sense which ones are giving you energy and which ones are taking your energy? What is going right in the good ones and wrong in the others? What do you need to change about your SELF in order to have the kind of relationship with the world that brings you Happiness, Joy, Peace, and Freedom? I’ve been meditating deeply on all of this lately. Moving very slowly into the void and waiting to see what naturally arises. Here’s some of the things coming up for me lately. They feel like an emerging NEW Rule-Set. Like an updated program to run on as we Collectively Dive Headlong into a Tremendous and Cataclysmic war between Freedom and control. Between fear and LOVE. AGE OF AQUARIUS: 21 NEW RULES For 2021 Enjoy, People, And Keep The Vibration High! 1.) Above all else, BE Direct and BE Honest. BE the one that says what has for too long gone unsaid. 2.) Love insanely. Let it all out into the open. You don’t have time to hold back any longer. 3.) Make your SELF strong. Physically strong, Emotionally strong, Mentally strong, Spiritually strong. 4.) Practice radical detachment and letting go. We need to create space for the New Paradigm to Emerge. 5.) Learn to enjoy BEing patient in allowing things to unfold naturally without forcing anything. 6.) Express your SELF like you never have before. BE more Real. BE more Raw. BE more Open. BE more bad Ass. BE more You. 7.) Let death be all the motivation you need to do anything you want to do. The clock is ticking faster than ever. 8.) Don’t be surprised when things work out far better than you could have imagined. 9.) Give away as much freedom to Others as you can stand, then give them more. Let them have their stupid differing opinions, or whatever, and just keep on loving them with everything you’ve got. 10.) Do NOT allow your mind to take the wheel. Steer with your Heart. 11.) Make Personal Evolution your Prime Directive and watch how quickly your life changes for the Better. 12.) BE the person in the room that Laughs and Smiles the most, showing others how to brush off the madness of the world. 13.) Conserve your energy until it is time to move, then do so with Maximum Potency. 14.) Stay close to the things you can control and distance yourself from those things which you cannot. 15.) Teach everything you’ve learned so far. Participate fully in the Growth of Others. 16.) Create relationships, fix relationships, find common ground, build bridges, and be there for others. 17.) Learn to fiercely Observe the world and the people around you. 18.) Rewrite the rules as needed for maximum ease and minimum stress. 19.) Let yourself cry, scream or whatever as needed in order to make sure you are a conduit for negative emotions, NOT a reservoir. 20.) Practice, Practice, Practice. Engage in your daily Inner Practice every single day. Cultivate your Inner Peace and Strength through the continuity of your Intentions. 21.) Maintain the Highest possible vibration you can and make a point of BEing infectious to Others. with Sacred LOVE of ONE Pars Kutay Artist: Sacha Stone #5D #ascension #lightseekers #lightwarriors #holisticdesign #holisticdesigner #lifecoach #love #lovelightstheway #2021 #newearth #awakening  This week I had the pleasure of having my close friend and fellow entrepreneur Candy Covnot, on my Podcast- Lifestyle By Design..
Candy is also Antique guru, creative- Candy Covnot. Aside from being a wonderful friend and mentor, Candy is also the Queen of "funk shui". Candy has over 20 years of experience hosting Estate sales and appraisal services, running a successful antique furniture and home decor booth in an antique mall for over 22 years, and she is a Master Florist. However you would never know from all her successes that she has been living with MS. Candy shared with my Podcast listeners how wellness isn't just about a lifestyle but it is a mindset. That exercise, and lifestyle choices can improve your MS and your overall quality of life, but so can living authentically. How taking control of this “invisible” aspect can help you stay motivated and resilient, improve relationships, and enhance all of the areas of your health and wellness. You can listen to the Podcast to hear the whole interview. But first, take a moment to read some of the other questions I asked her off-air. Candance: What are the best resources that have helped you along your journey? Candy: Best MS resource is the book, Dr. Wahls protocol. It's my ms bible! Candance: What 3 habits do you do daily that improve your life? Candy: My 3 daily habits are: In the morning quiet reflection time to start the day with good intentions. Then it's my morning stretching and breathing (yoga). Still working on nourishing my body with healthy eating habits because all if not most of my health issues can be managed with a healthy diet. Candance: Who are the 3 people who have been the most influential to you? Candy: Hmmm influential people??? Thinking... I have to think about that. I'm not sure certain people influence me. I'm inspired by many friends and follow certain people like Rachel Brathen (yoga girl) or Iyanla Vanzant. I'm inspired by people that are good humans A big thank you again, to Candy. She is such an inspiration! You can find Candy's beautiful antiques at Robyns Nest of Colorado, which are proudly displaying at The American Classics Marketplace on Academy Blvd, here in Colorado Springs, booth A-4 in the front showroom. For information about her Estate Sales, Call (719) 393-6006 or email [email protected]  Danielle and I are got to meet up this week, for my relaunch of my Podcast 'Lifestyle By Design' not too mention one of my most favorite photographers Brett Neilsen was there to film it all...as this special Podcast has a video! So a big shout out to him for helping collaborate on this project! With the two of us getting in person time, I started thinking about what it means to find your tribe. This woman is so much more than a friend. She is a support, encourager and empowers me. For me, she is a bad ass professional woman who has collectively seen and done it all. And when I struggle with issues in my personal or professional life, I know asking her for advice means I’m getting thoughtful and compassionate advice. So what? Everyone has friends, right? The difference for me is that I’m not going to her for friendship (or just friendship). I go to her for criticism, for improvement and for a road map through murky professional circumstances. And she gets me. No judgement. In case you missed my interview, you can check it out here. Here are some other questions I asked Danielle before we met up for the Podcast. C: How would your friends and family describe what you do for a living? D: My son thinks I'm famous, but he's only 9 sooooooo. My husband thinks I'm running a non-profit because every time he turns around I'm doing something exciting for free or giving something away! But seriously... I'm not sure. I've never asked what anybody thought about what I'm doing. That's a good question though! I might learn something about myself if I asked! C: If I could remove all barriers and constraints what project would you do and would you want to be known only by that project? D: Well...let's look at my barriers! The only thing that seems to hold me back is myself. I think. If I had an assistant that kept me on task and handled my media I'd be a rock star! I'm my own worst enemy in a since. So many ideas so little time! I typically have to weigh my options being booked out as far as I am. Focus on work or focus on public relations! You can always tell when I'm lacking in one or the other. I'll probably never settle on one project! Everything is too exciting! I do have a little something in the works! Something that's not related to interior design, but the cards haven't fallen right for that one just yet! I'd love to share more of my life and if I were to make an impact I'd be satisfied! C: What are you most excited about with your work right now? What keeps you up at night D: I sleep really well....I recently set goals for myself and met all but one so now it would appear the only thing I dream about....the next step for me would be having someone that knows me well enough to call my next move or help me make my project more public! I guess you could say creating more of a buzz excites me! Of course she answers a lot more questions on the Podcast, so be sure to check it out! A big thank you to Danielle for being my guest host and a big thank you to Brett Neilsen, with Brett Neilsen Photography, for the audio/video and for sponsoring my Podcast! Would you like to be a guest host on my Podcast? Message me today! [email protected] For more information about Danielle and her services, visit http://sincerelydanielleshunk.com/ Your Truth Will Set You Free
12/29/2019
 Some of you reading this can remember the voicemail left on my store phone late in the summer- if you aren't familiar with it that's okay, the contents of the voicemail were juvenile and filled with jealousy, and aren't worth mentioning here. That very same day a letter was put in the mail that made its way to the doorstep of the store.
Finding out your husband has been having an affair with a woman, Natalia, a Realtor here in our big/little city...whom I didn't even know existed...who was so gracious to do me a "favor" and send me an anonymous letter exposing their affair 4 months after the fact...and gives a half-assed apology because she can't even sign her letter... This day changed me. As you can imagine, finding out this information you really only have two choices- 1. Run, and let all of this manifest itself at some other stage in my life, but it's easier to just divorce him and run. Let it change me for the worst, close myself off to everyone to avoid being hurt ever again. 2. Stay, deal with the hurt, and open myself up to everything the Universe is trying to show me with this lesson (because I believe there are lessons in everything). The much harder choice if you ask anyone. I won't lie, I have spent the last several months somewhere in between both of those options. I have been in some of the darkest places, explored the inner parts of myself that actually scared me. Friends, family, and even my husband (who I will tell you has been working his ass off trying to rebuild from this entire ordeal) have all tried helping me as I sunk lower and lower. I realized I was comfortable sitting here as a victim. it was safe. A part of me wanted to keep my eyes closed. I wanted to stay hidden in my fear and anger, to sit in my righteousness with my pointing finger, sit in my victimhood. I wanted to defend why my life was so messy, to scream from the rooftops so everyone could hear my hurt. This pain left me frozen for months. Have you ever felt this kind of pain? If so, keep reading. I thought to myself over and over, "How can I move forward in the kind of work I do- talking to clients about making their inner worlds reflect in their outer worlds when my life is a fucking mess?" Oh yes, there it is...that little voice of self-doubt had reared its familiar head. It whispered, “You’re a fraud. You don’t know who you are or what you’re talking about. You don’t have your own life put together, and everyone will see right through you, you should just give up, do everyone a favor, divorce your husband and run.” So I sat in that anger and hurt longer until that same voice told me, "there is more to this life than what you are choosing, a place of love. There is a place that is eagerly waiting, a place of truth, a place behind the dense hurt and bondage where the real beauty in life awaits." I finally had to open my eyes and be aware. To be accountable, to be responsible for healing my life. I have had to love myself until I was full- I still am. The dark parts of me that I saw didn't want me to understand that the fingers I have been pointing should have been pointing back at me the entire time. I had to finally ask myself, "is this pain and anger really worth my misery? Is the price I am paying really worth this one precious life?" I knew at some point during all of this, the time would come when I would be given the task to let go, the choice to be reborn. Betrayal and the hurt that comes with it, also comes the opportunity to chose whether you stay where you are or surrender. Surrender. I finally learned the art of surrender during this experience, and the art of grace as I let things go. The finding of my true self, becoming reborn again. The unfolding of letting things happen the way they are supposed to happen. To have trust that my life is happening just the way it should be, and sometimes the people we love the most hurt us the most. But if you can sit instead of run, you will see there are beautiful opportunities to grow- it is Source's way of giving you everything this life has to offer, reminding you that you are owed nothing from this life and realize instead you owe it to yourself to be more present in your life, to surrender. To surrender sounds scary, bringing more fear, but it is actually a beautiful divine word. It means to give up, to let go, to let go of the things that no longer serve you, allowing divine grace to enter your life- trust the journey, even when your life is filled with chaos and disharmony. Ride the turbulent waters until you make it to the clear water that awaits...it will happen. Trust that the Universe is rearranging your life to make room for the beautiful gifts that await. Because the truth is, life is messy. Sometimes on the inside and sometimes on the outside. We are all constantly growing and shifting. Transitioning from one thing to the next. Losing our way and finding it again, over and over, rendition after rendition. My eyes started to open to the truth, and once they did, that truth can never be unseen again. This is what real awakening looks like. It is with real awakenings comes an understanding that will allow you to stretch into the wide expansive being you were destined to be. Finding out who your true self is as you follow the pain you are holding until you realize there is noting more for you to do with it. Lay it down, sweet friend. Get out of your own way. Be still, as it is with this stillness you will see the glimpses of who you truly are on the other side of the anger and hurt. Abundance is waiting. It is here that I learned about forgiveness and that any forgiveness I have experienced at this point in my life isn't because someone else made me let go, it was because I chose to. So the power is mine, just like it's yours. We all want forgiveness to be this practical concept and practice- but the truth is we just complicate things, and I am no different. Except this time I surrendered to the practical explanation of how to navigate through this and forgiveness, for there is an intelligence inside each of us that helps guide us and open our eyes to the wholeness inside us. It is the work of magic and miracles, do not overthink it, for love awaits on the other side of forgiveness. And with that love comes liberation. You must listen to the part of you that no longer wants to suffer. The longing to be more alive regardless of the actions of others, for you are responsible for your life- this one life. I hope you arrive at your freedom as I did, because I forgive them. After learning of my husband's affair in the manner in which I found out, I have personally come to know this entire process as beautiful. The fabric that makes each of us whole and human. What I discovered is authentic living and having a beautiful life is not about having a perfect house or a perfect life. It is not some static, ideal state of color coded shoes or a perfectly organized closet. It is about staying connected to heart and home. Creating daily life rituals with meaning and intention. Celebrating realness and creating foundations that function. Beautiful authentic living is about being real and alive. Paying attention to what makes us happy. Living from a place of joy and play. It’s about trusting ourselves, supporting ourselves, loving ourselves. It blooms with honesty, vulnerability and truth...and never having to send a letter like I was sent, because when you love yourself you don't seek love from someone else's marriage. Beautiful authentic living is about flow. It’s not a state of pristine, predictable perfection. Nor a plateau of happiness to strive towards or protect, or closing your eyes when things hurt. It’s about creating a home base that is ever-open, ever-changing, ever-evolving...riding the rough waters and sometimes knowing when it's better to surrender. Beautiful authentic living happens from the heart. It’s as real as your flesh and blood. As human as your desires…your mistakes…and your dreams. It is the true, raw, ever-changing beauty of this tapestry called life. Unique to you and woven with love, and even forgiveness Beautiful authentic living is a wild ride. But one so worth taking. |
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